Link Love (06/19/18)

Hey y’all! How are we this far into June already!? I feel like time is flying by.

I’ve been saving things I’ve come across that were interesting, so I thought I’d do another Link Love post.

First, I wanted to share that I created an Instagram account for the blog. You can find me on IG @moveoutoftheblack. I already have a personal account, a vegan food account (@herbivorean), and a vintage clothing account (@sofakingawesomevintage), so what’s one more? 😉

If you’re not following, you’re missing out on exchanges like this:

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HA! What a good dude.

Okay, end PSA. On to the links!

READ

You know that thing where you mention wanting to go on vacation to a friend, and suddenly your social media feed is filled with ads on deals to Aruba? (I kid you not, I used Head & Shoulders shampoo for the first time in a while, and the next day, an ad popped up on my IG feed.) It turns out we’re not just being paranoid…. our phones really are listening.

Someone put together a Google Map of unsolved murders, organized by location and era.

I enjoyed these tips on managing a negative mood and generating a positive one. Hint: don’t give in to your first reaction when things don’t go your way.

A reflection on Kate Spade’s death and a good reminder that our actions don’t always match how we’re feeling inside.

What if we all just did a little less? An Elle writer takes a cue from the book The Joy of Doing Just Enough and stops trying for a week.

Jennifer Carole is the daughter of Lyman Smith, one of the victims of the Golden State Killer. She’s been blogging all about her experience now that D’Angelo has been arrested as a suspect, including the trial appearances. She’s a great writer, and it’s been facsinating to learn about the case from her perspective. It’s still a struggle, but I’m glad she’s able to start to find some closure.

LISTEN

Murder by Death is one of my favorite bands, but I always have trouble explaining them to people. Luckily, VICE put together this handy Guide to Getting into Murder by Death.

Speaking of Murder by Death, they’re in the midst of another epic Kickstarter campaign. They always have great rewards! On the last campaign, we got to see them play in a lagering cavern in Kentucky. This year, they’ll be playing in an underground cave in Tennessee! If you’ve got $10K lying around, you can even join them at space camp. For the rest of us, there’s digital downloads, vinyl, and rad shirt and poster designs. The concept of the new album–a self-proclaimed space western–sounds awesome, and I can’t wait to hear it. There are 10 days left on the campaign, so check it out and help us get the stretch goals!

The new Chromeo album is perfect summer listening!

FOOD

Let’s get together and make this raspberry frosé, STAT! The perfect drink for summer (and I don’t even like wine).

These Toasted Coconut Caramel Frappes look amazing!

 

Got any links to share? Post them in the comments below!

You are not alone

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Photo by Hailey Kean on Unsplash

I’m feeling a bit rocked by the news of Anthony Bourdain’s death, especially so closely after designer Kate Spade’s.

It sometimes surprises me how much I am impacted by celebrity deaths. I didn’t know these people personally, but their work connected with me on some emotional level, creating a relationship by proxy.

Death is tragic, but the fact that both of their deaths were suicides is heartbreaking. I’m having an especially hard time reconciling both losses with their public personas. Kate Spade was recognized for her cheerful, colorful, and quirky designs, inspiring happiness and joy in so many women. Bourdain had his demons and acknowledged them publicly, but he also had such a strong sense of self identity, turning his “fuck you” attitude into an endearing and inspiring quality.

It’s important to recognize that we never know what other people are struggling with internally, and we should seek to treat others with kindness and respect, always.

It’s also such a testament to the fallacy of “more.” I am guilty of believing that once I finally achieve “X”–more money, more stability, more recognition–only then will I be truly happy. I’ve traditionally yearned for that next thing instead of focusing on what I have in the present.

Once I graduate college, my life will really begin.

Once I get married, I’ll finally feel content.

Once I buy a house, then I’ll feel successful.

All of these things have come and gone, but guess what? Those feelings of discontentment still exist. This is not to say that I’m not happy–most of the time, I’m extremely grateful for the life I have and the people in it. There’s always a little voice, though, trying to convince me that something is missing.

The point I’m trying to make is, if you are unhappy–whether you are just going through a temporary rough patch or are struggling with mental health issues–no level of material gain is going to address the problem. The things we turn to to try and fill the void–food, drugs, alcohol, sex, violence, money–offer temporary and unsustainable relief.

If you experience depression and have thoughts of suicide, please seek help. It is not a sign of weakness–it is a sign of strength. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available at 1-800-273-8255, where people devote their time and energy to let you know that you are valued and loved, and you are worthy and deserving of that love.

More than that, you are WORTHY and DESERVING of life.

Link Love (04/18/18)

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Photo by Daniel Apodaca on Unsplash

Hello! I’ve come across a few good articles on the web lately that I wanted to share. Hopefully these help you get through the rest of the week! Hope you’re having a good one.

READS

I found this article on lunar phases and how to make the most of each phase really interesting!

I love Ash at the Middle Finger Project, and her one-hour rule for loving the sh*t out of your life offers a great perspective on living the life you want to live.

Don’t be an innocent bystander when it comes to your own life. You are very much in charge. Whether it feels like it or not, you really can do whatever you want with this next hour.

Has self care become an excuse to do the things that feel good in the moment but might hurt us later? “Is That Self-Care or Self-Sabotage?,” posted over at Yes and Yes, asks us to examine our behaviors and recognize that sometimes self care isn’t the easiest choice.

Whether you’re just starting out or you’re considering a job change, GirlBoss is here with four steps to finding your career path when you have no idea where to start.

One writer’s personal journey to self love and pledge to self care.

Looking for ways to shake up your self-care routine? Here are six ways to practice self care that aren’t a face mask.

ENTERTAINMENT

My mom sent me the recent Saturday Night Live leggings sketch and I was dying. My version of the couch panini = leggings, blanket, and cat.

FOOD

I don’t normally get that excited about banana bread recipes, but this vegan-friendly Chai-Spiced Carrot Banana Bread by Hummusapien sounds incredible!

Got any links to share? Post them in the comments below!

Link Love (4/6/18)

Hi friends! Happy Friday! We’ve almost made it. Here’s a few links from around the Internet to help you kick off your weekend.

Amy Poehler Dancing GIF by Sisters-source

READS

I’m very into these 10 Simple Life Hacks to Make 2018 This Much Easier–especially if it helps me remember my wallet.

This piece from the New Yorker on cancelling plans holds as true today as it did when it was written: Let’s Get Drinks.

I posted a little while back about aiming to live life like every day is a vacation–well, here’s how to actually trick your brain into doing it!!

Have you heard of Shine? It’s an app (or you can sign up for the SMS texting service) that pushes you a motivational message each morning. The service sends a few uplifting messages, then links to a related article that goes more in depth on the topic. It also lets you check in each day, which prompts you to reflect on what you’re grateful for and what you’re doing to feel good. I’ve been using the app, and I love it. You can decide what time to receive the message each day, and the articles have been really relevant to me. I read them while I drink my morning smoothie. It’s been a nice way to start the day! Plus, any site that supports binge watching is OK by me….

ENTERTAINMENT

Did you listen to the podcast Dirty John? I had no idea they were turning it into a TV show, with Eric Bana cast as John Meehan.

FOOD

I mentioned we’ve been using an air fryer lately–do you have one? Let’s make our way through this vegan air fryer recipe round up!

I’ve never been able to get into overnight oats, but this list of overnight oats recipes by Lemons and Zest is making me reconsider! Zucchini bread oats!? (Side note: why can I never spell zuchinni zucchini correctly?)

 Have a great weekend!