Let’s face it–life is weird.
Imagine two days of your week. The basic activities you do on each of these days are the same–wake up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, unwind, go to sleep. Nothing dramatic happens, and there are no major differences between the two. Yet one feels comfortable, bringing feelings of joy and content, and one feels frustrating, leading to feelings of doubt and uncertainty.
Does this sound familiar? *Raises hand.*
I have great days and not-so great days, and the only thing that has really changed between the two is my mindset.
I don’t know how to help you avoid this shift. I say this because I repeatedly try and fail. When I know I’m in a funk, I throw myself into motivational podcasts, self-help books, inspirational mantras, meditation, yoga, gratitude, and music–just to name a few. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it just doesn’t.
So, how about a new strategy? Let’s embrace it. Things going your way? Great! Enjoy it. Revel in it. This is your time!
Things not going your way? OK. Let’s take a moment. Breathe. How can we make the most of this? Maybe take the opportunity to be a little kinder to yourself. You don’t have to do everything–in fact, you shouldn’t. What’s one thing you’ve been wanting to do just for you?
I’m not talking about crossing a task off of the never-ending to-do list–I’m talking about cancelling your plans, closing the curtains, and binge-watching the newest show on Netflix. How about finally booking that trip you’ve always wanted to take? Maybe you call the friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, donate the money or time to that charity you always meant to support, hit inbox zero, or read a dang book. (How many of us wish we read more? *Raises hand again.*)
This doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant. What you need might be as simple as buying a nice cup of coffee, going for a walk, putting on comfortable socks, or sitting quietly with your thoughts for five minutes. It might be eating some comfort food, having a good laugh, or having a good cry. The point is, use each season (or as my husband might say, mood swing) to your advantage. For every moment of happiness, excitement, and satisfaction, there’s going to be pain, boredom, and listlessness. What you can do to make the most of the “down” times?
Life is cyclical. The good days will return. Let’s take advantage of our ever-changing mindsets and make time for what we need. We’ve only got one shot at this weird life.
Tell me: How do you cope when you’re feeling down?