Link Love (07/19/18)

Hi! I hope you are having a great week.

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Friday the 13th kicked off an ’80s horror binge for us. Since then, we’ve watched the fourth one in the series (AKA “The Final Chapter”–HA!), Piranha (1978), Chopping Mall (1986), and Sleepaway Camp (1983).

I have to admit I watched Friday the 13th for the first time this past Halloween. I am a late bloomer when it comes to loving horror, and for so many years, I was adamant that I’d never watch the series. Once I finally did, it quickly became my favorite! Young me would be shocked (as are probably some friends). The movies are so enjoyable–funny, scary, gratuitous. What more do you really want from an ’80s flick?

Anyway! I’ve got a short link round-up for you today.

READ

An all-vegan food hall has opened in Miami! We spent a week in South Beach in early 2017 (which honestly feels like 100 years ago) and had the best time. Now I have even more of a reason to go back!

I’m sure some people find this controversial, but I admit that I think it’s great: company WeWork will only reimburse employee meals if they are meatless.

A little older, but I keep coming back to this article on words to keep out of your professional vocabulary. I say “just” all of the time and have been trying to minimize my use of it.

Using the word “just” before a declaration diminishes the intent. Why make your actions appear smaller or less significant? – Kate Arends

WATCH

There’s a teaser for Stranger Things season 3! But, we have to wait a whole year!?

Neill Blomkamp is set to direct a new RoboCop movie! It’s referred to as a sequel, but it’s unclear to me if Joel Kinnaman will be reviving his role, or if it’s more of a reboot.

FOOD

This coffee soda recipe is blowing my mind. I first had a coffee soda in Nashville at Crema. It was an orange coffee soda. I was a bit skeptical, but it was insanely refreshing! I never thought about recreating it–and so easily!

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Breakfast and coffee soda at Crema

Have a great rest of the week!

Tell me: What movie should we watch next? Got any links to share?

Link Love (06/19/18)

Hey y’all! How are we this far into June already!? I feel like time is flying by.

I’ve been saving things I’ve come across that were interesting, so I thought I’d do another Link Love post.

First, I wanted to share that I created an Instagram account for the blog. You can find me on IG @moveoutoftheblack. I already have a personal account, a vegan food account (@herbivorean), and a vintage clothing account (@sofakingawesomevintage), so what’s one more? 😉

If you’re not following, you’re missing out on exchanges like this:

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HA! What a good dude.

Okay, end PSA. On to the links!

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You know that thing where you mention wanting to go on vacation to a friend, and suddenly your social media feed is filled with ads on deals to Aruba? (I kid you not, I used Head & Shoulders shampoo for the first time in a while, and the next day, an ad popped up on my IG feed.) It turns out we’re not just being paranoid…. our phones really are listening.

Someone put together a Google Map of unsolved murders, organized by location and era.

I enjoyed these tips on managing a negative mood and generating a positive one. Hint: don’t give in to your first reaction when things don’t go your way.

A reflection on Kate Spade’s death and a good reminder that our actions don’t always match how we’re feeling inside.

What if we all just did a little less? An Elle writer takes a cue from the book The Joy of Doing Just Enough and stops trying for a week.

Jennifer Carole is the daughter of Lyman Smith, one of the victims of the Golden State Killer. She’s been blogging all about her experience now that D’Angelo has been arrested as a suspect, including the trial appearances. She’s a great writer, and it’s been facsinating to learn about the case from her perspective. It’s still a struggle, but I’m glad she’s able to start to find some closure.

LISTEN

Murder by Death is one of my favorite bands, but I always have trouble explaining them to people. Luckily, VICE put together this handy Guide to Getting into Murder by Death.

Speaking of Murder by Death, they’re in the midst of another epic Kickstarter campaign. They always have great rewards! On the last campaign, we got to see them play in a lagering cavern in Kentucky. This year, they’ll be playing in an underground cave in Tennessee! If you’ve got $10K lying around, you can even join them at space camp. For the rest of us, there’s digital downloads, vinyl, and rad shirt and poster designs. The concept of the new album–a self-proclaimed space western–sounds awesome, and I can’t wait to hear it. There are 10 days left on the campaign, so check it out and help us get the stretch goals!

The new Chromeo album is perfect summer listening!

FOOD

Let’s get together and make this raspberry frosé, STAT! The perfect drink for summer (and I don’t even like wine).

These Toasted Coconut Caramel Frappes look amazing!

 

Got any links to share? Post them in the comments below!

Embrace the change

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Cherry blossoms are beautiful but fleeting–a reminder to savor the good moments.

Let’s face it–life is weird.

Imagine two days of your week. The basic activities you do on each of these days are the same–wake up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, unwind, go to sleep. Nothing dramatic happens, and there are no major differences between the two. Yet one feels comfortable, bringing feelings of joy and content, and one feels frustrating, leading to feelings of doubt and uncertainty.

Does this sound familiar? *Raises hand.*

I have great days and not-so great days, and the only thing that has really changed between the two is my mindset.

I don’t know how to help you avoid this shift. I say this because I repeatedly try and fail. When I know I’m in a funk, I throw myself into motivational podcasts, self-help books, inspirational mantras, meditation, yoga, gratitude, and music–just to name a few. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it just doesn’t.

So, how about a new strategy? Let’s embrace it. Things going your way? Great! Enjoy it. Revel in it. This is your time!

Things not going your way? OK. Let’s take a moment. Breathe. How can we make the most of this? Maybe take the opportunity to be a little kinder to yourself. You don’t have to do everything–in fact, you shouldn’t. What’s one thing you’ve been wanting to do just for you?

I’m not talking about crossing a task off of the never-ending to-do list–I’m talking about cancelling your plans, closing the curtains, and binge-watching the newest show on Netflix. How about finally booking that trip you’ve always wanted to take? Maybe you call the friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, donate the money or time to that charity you always meant to support, hit inbox zero, or read a dang book. (How many of us wish we read more? *Raises hand again.*)

This doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant. What you need might be as simple as buying a nice cup of coffee, going for a walk, putting on comfortable socks, or sitting quietly with your thoughts for five minutes. It might be eating some comfort food, having a good laugh, or having a good cry. The point is, use each season (or as my husband might say, mood swing) to your advantage. For every moment of happiness, excitement, and satisfaction, there’s going to be pain, boredom, and listlessness. What you can do to make the most of the “down” times?

Life is cyclical. The good days will return. Let’s take advantage of our ever-changing mindsets and make time for what we need. We’ve only got one shot at this weird life.

Tell me: How do you cope when you’re feeling down?

I don’t have to be….

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Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash

I don’t have to be the smartest, the wittiest, or the most adept.

I don’t have to be the prettiest, the thinnest, or the most graceful.

I don’t have to be the loudest or the most assertive, and I certainly don’t have to be rude to get what I want.

I don’t have to be the nicest, or the shyest, or the quiet one. I don’t have to be seen and not heard.

I don’t have to be convincing or completely sure of myself. I don’t have to be the one with all the answers.

I don’t have to be any of these things, and I’m definitely not most of them. I only have to be me–and you only have to be you.

Isn’t that a relief?

 

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Scenes from the weekend (clockwise from top left): (1) vegan cinnamon roll from the farmer’s market (2) finally got my hold of I’ll Be Gone in the Dark from the library (3) took Helena outside after much begging (4) we do have another cat that comes out sometimes (5) how much of the weekend was spent (6) sweaty car selfie after walking around a flea market all morning

Link Love (04/18/18)

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Photo by Daniel Apodaca on Unsplash

Hello! I’ve come across a few good articles on the web lately that I wanted to share. Hopefully these help you get through the rest of the week! Hope you’re having a good one.

READS

I found this article on lunar phases and how to make the most of each phase really interesting!

I love Ash at the Middle Finger Project, and her one-hour rule for loving the sh*t out of your life offers a great perspective on living the life you want to live.

Don’t be an innocent bystander when it comes to your own life. You are very much in charge. Whether it feels like it or not, you really can do whatever you want with this next hour.

Has self care become an excuse to do the things that feel good in the moment but might hurt us later? “Is That Self-Care or Self-Sabotage?,” posted over at Yes and Yes, asks us to examine our behaviors and recognize that sometimes self care isn’t the easiest choice.

Whether you’re just starting out or you’re considering a job change, GirlBoss is here with four steps to finding your career path when you have no idea where to start.

One writer’s personal journey to self love and pledge to self care.

Looking for ways to shake up your self-care routine? Here are six ways to practice self care that aren’t a face mask.

ENTERTAINMENT

My mom sent me the recent Saturday Night Live leggings sketch and I was dying. My version of the couch panini = leggings, blanket, and cat.

FOOD

I don’t normally get that excited about banana bread recipes, but this vegan-friendly Chai-Spiced Carrot Banana Bread by Hummusapien sounds incredible!

Got any links to share? Post them in the comments below!